Dating is a very scary idea, for many people, for a variety of different reasons. Some people are may be scared of date because they have not been on one for a long time (marriage break up, long time partner, too busy doing other things), others because they just never gained that dating confidence everyone would like to have.
Practice To Gain Confidence
As with many things, the best way to get confident is to practice. Getting a few dates under your belt is a great way to get your dating confidence going. It doesn't matter if you mess up a few dates, the idea is to go on some dates and with practice, you gain confidence.
Not Every Date Will Succeed
Being rejected is not such a big thing. You get over it and move on. Even if you were perfect on a date, perhaps it was just never meant to be.
The hard part is getting over being dumped after you fall in love with someone and fail to fall out of love at the appropriate time (but you never get the big prize unless you are in the draw!).
Even the best can fail sometimes. Albert Einstein once said, "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new".
If you are fearing dating, perhaps look at techniques that will calm yourself down before your next date. Practice breathing techniques, or look into meditation. If you are more relaxed, your date will notice this.
If you have social anxiety issues, look into how you can improve and get some help. Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT) can provide you with some useful techniques, or perhaps a doctor will recommend medication to reduce your anxiety. This video shows some tips on how to deal with social anxiety and this website has some learning modules and information.
Human anxiety is a natural response and can be useful to deal with fight or flight situations, but not so useful for social situations like dating. Don't let anxiety take you out of the dating game. With an estimated 1 in 5 people experiencing significant anxiety in their life, you are not alone.
You can unlearn your bad anxiety habits, so don't let your anxiety stand in the way of your happiness. Left unattended, your anxiety can become greater in future situations, or you may end up trying to avoid social interactions altogether.
Take a positive mindset into a date. If you are negative about your chances going into the date, this feeling can be felt by your date. Don't focus on the negatives.
Anxiety can lead us to over-estimate the chances of something going wrong, or how important it is even if something does not go as you hoped. So whilst analysing situations, try remain positive.
Get Or Add To Your Outfits
Adding something to your wardrobe can give you a boost of confidence. If you are not the best at choosing your outfits, get someone you trust to give you some advice and perhaps go shopping with them.
Take Care of Your Body
Look at what you are putting into your body and how much exercise you get.
Eating good foods cannot only help you attain the body shape that can give you more confidence, but can also help your energy levels and ability to be alert and focused on your date.
Try Different Dating Avenues
Dating agencies are becoming very common in our fast paced worlds. Speed dating is also another newer trend that is becoming popular. Don't be afraid to get out there and meet some new people, the dating scene is changing with our society where often work and a hectic life can make finding a date difficult. Finding people at traditional places like pubs and nightclubs is not for everyone and you are more likely to find someone that meets your interests if matched up beforehand.
Remember, dating confidence can be gained with practice and a bit of bravado to get in there.